dearest friendlies…(part 1)

It’s been a rough week, month, year! So many ups and downs. I been telling myself I would write a blogpost almost every single day these past two weeks but…well I just couldn’t didn’t. I read your blogs, FB pages, twitter and a few books, and took lots of stitches.
First off, my dear friendlies, one of my favorite FB friends/writers/ NYC poet of life, Michelle Slater passed away. I never met her in person but here, through the blog when she began commenting many years ago. I think she came here via Spiritcloth as many of you have for so long (and even for some, more recently). We had so many wonderful exchanges over the years, through social media as well as the mail. She lived alone in a rent controlled apartment in Manhattan and gave us the gift of so many views of the city she had lived in for over 60 years. She also wrote a blog (actually several) filled with observations of life, photos, and poetry. Just reading the sidebar of her blog could change your life and worldview.
She commented on my blog many times over more than a decade and I will treasure each comment once more whenever I come back to one. In the years prior to our friendliness on FB, she gave me glimpses into her world as they related to mine in her comments but it was only 4 years ago she left me the following comment that told me even more about herself than i had known:

I’ve never made a living at what I’ve loved to do, neither in twenty years of Theater, another ten or fifteen in Film, video and photography, nor as a writer, nor painter, and I only dabbled in cloth. I could blame this on the fact that I somehow managed to eek out a living on the fringes doing this and that, or that I always worked for unpopular causes (feminism, peace, justice etc.), but the truth is I was simply never ambitious enough to pursue money, nor did I have the stick-to-it that’s needed, and now, at seventy three, I’m quite poor in the pocket book. Sometimes friends send gifts, my Social security and small pension from one 11 year position just manage to keep me in internet, phone, electric, and rent (blessedly low after many Landlord battles) and I even get some food aid from a Senior nutrition program. I’m able to go to doctors thanks to medicare basic, but not dentists. I had help to pay for two cataract operations from several generous friends as I live without credit cards. But my admiration for craft and those, like you who manage to somehow make it work is unbounded. The way the 21st Century is leaning into the automated and the digital, outsourcing and growth does look bleak…not to mention the awful political wrangling and the shameful wars…still, I believe that though the artists are as endangered as the polar bear and Minki whale, we persist in another dimension, and that’s as real as the space probes and the industrial glut. Love fuels the enterprise and it’s the best fuel ever to emerge from this earth enterprise.

Michelle in NYC

She was found in her apartment, apparently in her usual chair, when friends noticed she hadn’t posted for several days and wasn’t answering the phone. In my mind I imagine her setting up a new post with a fabulous link or video or simply typing “Goodnight dear friendlies” with a photo view out her apartment window as she did so often.
So here’s to you Michelle… Goodnight with gratitude my friend!
Link to the last video she posted…here.
And my original post (2016) where Michelle left the above comment.

other parts (2 and maybe 3 to follow). comment link is at the top of post.

18 thoughts on “dearest friendlies…(part 1)

  1. deanna7trees

    love how you are, in a way, channeling Michelle. I loved her and all that she offered to us through the years. She will always live in my heart.

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    1. shiborigirl Post author

      i went back and searched all the myriad comments she left on the blog via my blog admin and it was such a joy! and difficult to choose just one. so channeling Michelle was easy- reading them all was to be surrounded by her.

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  2. Tonibelonogoff

    Thank you for including the Doris Goodwin interview about RBG. I try to watch Amanpour & Co. every day, but I missed that one. Another thought in keeping with Michelle’s thoughts: Education. The classes I took in college when I was in my 30’s (a long time ago) – some that I remember and which have influenced my life were Philosophy (Plato’s Republic); History (from pre-WWI to current times); and Greek Drama. Do people still study these things? It seems to me that these days students don’t study Humanities, but rather Computer Science and Business–“un-Humanities”.

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    1. shiborigirl Post author

      it was a great interview wasn’t it? Michelle always had the greatest shares. we certainly could use more Humanities these days. Seems that the degree track these days doesn’t include too much except the basics outside your particular area of study, which is of course, geared all to the job market. So that makes Michelle’s quoted comment is even more important to me in that context.
      Good to hear from you Toni! TY for popping by!


  3. Carol Tummon

    Hello and my sympathy for the loss of a very good friend. i wish I had known her as she seemed like a person of great wisdom. I am one of those who came to you as of Spirit c/loth and am enjoying the post. i look forward to finding the time to read about your sun technique which I really like.

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